Untherapy is a perpetually evolving set of beliefs that center around the importance of courage, simplicity, and consent in all relationships.
Here are some of the main ideas.
I am the main character in my own life, which means I am responsible for everything about me. I remember that this is true for every human.
My unique combination of thought model, feeling type, life experiences, and true desires are perfectly optimized to support my best life.
Existence is evidence of worthiness. By nature of the fact that I am alive in this time and space, I accept that who I truly am (thoughts, feelings, and desires) is who I was meant to be, and that’s a good thing.
I recognize the supportive nature of life and believe that powers larger than my comprehension are working behind the scenes to support my growth and healing.
I am wired for connection, so it is important to get good at it. The more I understand about myself and others, the easier and more fulfilling all my relationships become.
Things come up to come out. When something bothers me, I acknowledge that it has presented itself to be released. As I process these triggers, I make space for healing and growth in a natural, gentle process that works with and expands my capacity to thrive. By the same token, traumatic experiences provide the precise healing opportunities I am most ready for.
“Desire is proof of deserve.” When I want something, I recognize that this desire is directly connected to the best next steps for me. I notice my desires and pursue them with intention and consistency. I release my attachment to specific outcomes, knowing that course corrections will continue to perfect my path.
Every experience is redeemable. Life is about learning. I acknowledge that every misstep or failure has inherent lessons that are useful (and maybe even essential) for my continued evolution.
Everyone is doing their best with what they have from where they are. Even (and especially) when I cannot understand why, I recognize that each person got to this moment the same way I did: by trying to figure it out the best way they knew how.
Life is meant to be enjoyed. I release the need to force and control my outcomes. I trust that as I consent to the choices I most desire, I will receive what is best for me.
Negative feelings like fear, doubt, and anger are just as useful as positive ones. They draw attention to things I might otherwise ignore. As I process and release these emotions, I create space for my own evolution while simultaneously giving others permission to do the same.
I take responsibility for communicating. I do not hold others responsible for things I have not clearly communicated. I do not expect others to read my mind.
Life is a non-zero-sum game. Everyone can win. My having more does not equal less for you. Lack is an illusion that challenges me to process my negative emotions and further my understanding.
Processing emotions does not have to be torturous. Because I am wired for healing and growth, releasing negative emotions can be gentle and natural. When I use the proper protocols, my personal evolution becomes a normal experience that gives meaning and purpose to my existence.
Untherapy is a living belief system that is perpetually evolving as my consciousness expands.